Lunch and Learn

Feedback

Dear Rachel,
I hope you are well,
Thank you so much for delivering the recent training programme on Domestic Violence.
I have to say the way in which you delivered the session had an enormous impact on our
staff.
Your humour and hard hitting approach linked with the academic research that you
linked applied to your delivery was truly superb.
Very well done and thanks
Pam Kelly
Chief Constable of Gwent Police

 

Dear Rachel,

 

Here is some feedback:

 

“The speaker was really good. I really enjoyed that experience of getting to know her story, it was a very mature talk which was a great experience. The talk was great. I loved it.” Year 10 student. 

 

“I am so glad we met Rachel in our small group session. Her story is very powerful, and she is a very strong and inspirational woman. She has given me hope that we can combat Domestic Abuse and do something about it. Thank you.” ALC student.

 

“Rachel was fantastic with all our learners. Her story is raw and powerful. I am so glad she got to speak to our year 10 cohort, but I am even more grateful that she joined me for some tea in our Alternative Learning Centre for vulnerable children during breaktime. This then led to an impromptu session as our children started to ask her questions about her life and story. Rachel was patient, kind and fearless at the same time. Our learners were amazed and clearly impacted by her testimony. I would highly recommend her to any school. Her message is one of hope; hope for a better world free of domestic abuse.” Mr Ballester (Senior Teacher).

 

 

Kind regards,

 

Sean.

 

Westside School – “Dream Together, Work Together, Grow Together.”

North West CPS

Thank you for your session, it was really inspirational.

Thank you so much for this impacting training

Just thought I would say how amazing that training was yesterday. I remember watching Judge Rinders Crime Stories, and I remember watching Rachel’s story on there and being shocked and appalled, and thinking how brave and inspirational she was. I watched just before I started my pupillage here with the CPS in Nov 2020 from memory (I started 30th Nov 2020 and I think the episode aired earlier that month), and seeing it made me even more certain that joining the CPS was the right thing to do. I wanted to help in any way I could, and I believed, and still do, that this job enables me to do that. So to actually meet her (virtually), hear her speak, and see how amazing she is in person was a phenomenal experience. I am so glad I attended the course. Sometimes when you do courts like MCMC5 you become almost numb to the horrific experiences that people have been to. You see it so often and in such quick succession sometimes you can’t even process it. Going to the course yesterday has helped me firmly ground myself and remember these are people’s lives, their stories, their suffering, and their bravery in coming forward. The moment I forget all of that, in my view, there is no point in me doing this job anymore because I wouldn’t be doing it for the right reasons!!!!

Amazing course!!

Thank you for letting me understand what you experienced and enabling me to see DA from a survivor’s perspective.

Rachael is an inspiration. She is a wonderful speaker. I feel that every prosecutor should hear Rachael speak and read her book.

excellent session thought provoking and impactful, thank you for sharing your story.

I think Rachael is incredibly brave and such an inspiration to speak out about her own horrific experience. Hopefully hearing her story will one day change the way domestic cases are dealt with. I hope she achieves everything she has set out to do and continues to speak out making more people aware of domestic abuse.

As I said on the chat, “Thank you so, so very much Rachel.  Keep doing what you’re doing.  I am so sorry that you’ve had to go through all of this, – but the way you have taken control and are now pursuing justice for everyone else is truly inspiring.  Thank you.” To have someone with Rachel’s no-nonsense approach cutting through the bureaucracy and bringing their own personal experiences (as well as others) through is what the system needs!

I had already read your book so knew a little of your experience but to hear your story in person was very impactful and you put the issues across very well, explaining the practical difficulties you faced and thankfully the new life you now have.

Just to say what a brave person she is and how she has taken what has happened to her to help and assist others

Thanks for your heroine account and there should be more Rachels in the world.

Yes, learning about your story and your awareness and how strong you have become every day since the attack is truly mind blowing what a hardworking, independent woman you are. You have inspired me so much. The fact you have never once given up after everything is heart warming. Women of the society will be started to become more stronger once hearing about your story and I pray nothing like what happened to you ever happens to more women. I hope one day the justice system gets better so we can prevent anyone else having to go something as traumatic as you did. Thankyou once again Rachel for such a brilliant course to make us all so much more aware.

Rachel is an inspiration in all the work she is tirelessly doing and it is clear she is well thought of to give a voice to domestic abuse and what we can learn going forward in prosecuting such cases.

So grateful for Rachel for sharing her story with us and using it to help so many people! I have ordered her book and hope to support others they way she does.

Rachel is so inspirational and committed to her cause. I would like to thank her personally for her time and sharing her story.

Lanarkshire Safe and Together Practitioner Forum 26th May 2023

Yvonne

Thanks Rachel, sorry not able to ask questions (busy background) but I found your presentation excellent. It saddens me that we still within our day to day roles continue to advocate for women experiencing coercive control and patterns to partner agencies who don’t understand it (or wish to change their practice – easier to collude with the perpetrators) Particularly around language used (and recorded in reports). Will definitely be in touch for those stats so we can use them to highlight the prevalence during the course of our work!

You are an exceptional woman and thank you for sharing your story. 

 

Audrey

Thank you so much for sharing your story, Rachel

 

Helen

Thanks Rachel, that was absolutely wonderful, I could listen to you all day long. 

 

Shona – GBV Services

Thank you very much Rachel. Very powerful, thought provoking presentation and lots I will be taking back to my role. 

 

Anne

Really helpful and very much appreciate you sharing so much with us

 

Sharon

Thanks for sharing your story Rachel so powerful. Lost for words. Will be useful for our practice.

 

Anne 

Excellent Rachael so helpful and informative

 

Lynn – Health Visitor

Excellent and Informative thank you 

 

Alison

People don’t commit suicide they complete suicide.  Again this is about language. 

 

Sharon

Would it be possible to get a copy of the presentation , it had lots of useful information thanks

 

Dawn M

Thank you – very informative and lots of new information I didn’t know.

 

Angela

Rachel, your story is compelling. Thank you for sharing 

 

Anne

I feel the safe and together framework has given  the basis for staff in universal services to start to have more of these conversations with victims/survivors and to be clearer about their use of language and way they document what they see happening

 

Anne

The statistic about being a cause of strokes in women under 40 re NFS should make compelling medical evidence to make this a standalone offence  in its own right

 

Fiona

Really interesting and informative, thanks so much

 

Tracy 

I am always inspired by the strength of a woman and what we can endure.  I have been utterly blown away this afternoon and honoured to have heard you story.  Thank you,

 

Attendees

 

Victoria, Child and Family Support Worker, Intensive Services, North Lanarkshire Council 

Sharon  Children and Families soc…

 

I am the training and development worker… 

Hi, I am the training and development worker at GBV Services NHS Lanarkshire.  

I am Senior Educational Psychologist and… by Anne T

 

I am Senior Educational Psychologist and Trainer for Safe and Together in NLC, 

 

I am a Social Worker within the children… by Karen 

Hi, I am a Social Worker within the children and Families team in Cumbernauld 

Health visitor Motherwell by Lynn K

 

Jennifer, Domestic abuse support worker for Aura

 

Hi, I am Lynn – Health Visitor Warnock,


Tracy Richardson, Kinship Support Worker for North Lanarkshire Council

 

Natalie M, Trainee Health Visitor  

 

Good afternoon,  D McKeown Social Worker Children & Families Motherwell

 

Hi, Gill, senior social worker, Intensive services.

Hi, I’m a Senior Officer in Children and Families Social Work in North Lanarkshire.

Audrey – Admin Assistant, Public Protection office

Shirelle, children and family support worker intensive servo

Hi, I am Senior Officer for Child Protection 

Hi, I’m Fiona, Children and Families Social Worker in Cumbernauld and Safe and Together champion for the locality

Hi, I’m Helen  Service Co-ordinator (Domestic Abuse) for North Lanarkshire.

Hi, I am Louise, Domestic Abuse Support Worker with Aura 

I’m Marie, Health Visitor in Wishaw

Hi, I’m Tricia, support worker with Aura Domestic Abuse Service 

CPS Direct – Cheshire, Merseyside & NW 25th April & May 10th  and 25th 2023

 

Jane

One of the best, most insightful and useful courses I have attended in a long time! Thanks so much Rachel you are inspirational.

 

Emma.

WOW, what an inspiration. I will definitely recommend to my colleagues

 

Naomi

Thank you very much for a fantastic session – you’re inspirational.

 

Ellen

Thank you for sharing your story and experience Rachel – it has definitely been eye opening and inspirational, and I’ll take what I’ve learnt from you today into my daily work and the cases I come across in the CPS (I’m also a Court based Paralegal)

 

Carol

I am going to have to leave now, thank you so much for sharing your story, this has been really helpful for me in my role as a victim liaison manager

 

Ellen

Thanks very much for today, the linguistics information on statements was really interesting.

 

Vicky

Thank you so, so very much Rachel.  Keep doing what you’re doing.  I am so sorry that you’ve had to go through all of this, – but the way you have taken control and are now pursuing justice for everyone else is truly inspiring.  Thank you.

 

Laura

Amazing, good on you!!!

 

Leanne

You are amazing

 

CK

Thank you so much Rachel – really impactful!

 

Alex

Thank you so much Rachel – you are an inspiration

 

 

Levis.

Thank you

 

Angela

Thank you so much.

 

Phillipa

Thanks for a great session. A breath of fresh air!!

 

 

Laura

Thank you!!!!!!

 

Hannah

Thank you.

 

Jessica

Thank you, really brilliant and insightful.

 

Lynn

Thanks Rachel, inspiring, I have to leave now sorry

 

David

Many thanks Rachel for a very personal and powerful talk.

 

Joanna

Thank you so much Rachel so helpful to the work we do

 

Carlie

thank you so much for sharing your story

 

Brian

Thank you, Rachel. What you are doing is an inspiration.

 

Wendy

Many thanks Rachel  for such an inspiring and powerful session.

 

Tess

Thank you so much Rachel and keep fighting the fight. This was very helpful.

 

Amanda

shocking over 75 yr olds

 

Amie

I was about to say this has so many similarities with Raoul Moat

 

Jayne

I was thinking the same

 

Amie

Desperately sad case

 

Kath

Keep seeing that charge in the system

 

Katherine

Brilliant

 

S

I have raised the question in a recent course whether there are judicial directions as with Rape cases where myths and stereotypes  have a dedicated direction to be given to the jury.

 

Amanda

Thank you for sharing your story with us Rachel and keep up the amazing work you are doing.

 

Amie

Thank you for sharing your story, for all your hard work and continued work. You are truly inspirational!

 

Emanuele

Thank you for your time and courage. I found your presentation very impactive!

 

Christopher

Thanks Rachel. Have to join another meeting now.

 

Gemma

This has been a very interesting and thought provoking session. Thank you for all the work you continue to do, you really are an inspiration to people who want to make change possible. I am a Caseworker on RASSO so see domestic abuse in lots of the cases I cover at Court.

 

Yvonne

Thank you for the extremely informative session, very impactive.

 

 

Sharon

Thank you for this event. I had downloaded a sample of your book on my mobile to look at before buying your book and saw that you were doing this event.  It was really interesting to hear the work you are doing for victims of Domestic Abuse.

 

Sarah

Thank you – I remember this happening what you have done since is inspirational

 

Rachel

Thank you for sharing your story, Rachel. Your presentation has been extremely helpful and will be useful to take forward

 

Sarah

Many thanks Rachel. I would like to support in any way I can

 

Naima

Thank you, Rachel, that was extremely informative and from the eyes of a victim is extremely engaging to see the victims perspective.  You are doing great with all the work you are doing in the community, wish you all the best

 

Jayne

Thank you very much Rachel. I did actually see your story on Judge Rinder and remember thinking how shocking it was.  You are so inspirational and obviously committed to the cause.  I have found this training so informative

 

Sharon

I was going to buy the book so will get this through the ILA. If you could sign it, it will be great

 

John

Thanks really enjoyed this

 

Linda

Thank you Rachel Very informative

 

NSAW Lunch & Learn 27th April 2023

Emma (Hywel Dda UHB – Specialist Nurse Safeguarding

Also have to leave – thank you for an extremely impactful session.

 

[Edna | (She/Hers)

Sorry I am going into video link meeting at 2.15 – brilliant couple of hours – thank you 

 

J Dafydd

What would your advice be on what to do when you disagree with a Domestic Abuse Officers grading of an incident…or an officers? I have seen incidents downgraded in risk that have not sat right with me every now and then. 

 

J Dafydd

thank you

 

Joanna G (Hywel Dda UHB – Safeguarding support practitioner)

Thank you so much. great presentation. what an eye opener!! amazing!

 

W Tom

Thank you very much for the presentation. Apologies but I need to leave for another meeting. 

 

M Hannah PC XXX

Inspirational, thank you Rachel.

 

Sara T

Absolutely amazing 

 

Rebecca Z [reb15] (Staff)

Thank you for an insightful and inspirational presentation. 

 

B Louise

Thank you so much for being so honest

 

L Cheryl

Brilliant and informative. Thank you. Would be great to have the slides for information and stats. 

 

R Sally-Ann

Thank you so much- emotional, challenging and inspirational input

 

A Vicki DC XXX

Thank you for a brilliant presentation. I really enjoyed and it was a great insight. The way you talk about things is very much like my friend Michelle who is highlighting child to parent abuse! Thank you

 

Wendy 

emotive and powerful – thank you  

L Rebecca (External)

thank you amazing

 

Cathy F

Thankyou Rachel.

 

H Lisa

much appreciated thank you Rachel you are very inspirational 

S Nicola

Thank you so much. This was so helpful from a trainee probation officer perspective. 

Kizzie G (Ceredigion)

Amazing, thank you!

Emma A W

Thank you so much for this afternoon.

Ffion (Guest)

Thank you!! 

 

Juliette A R

Thank you so much – amazing and informative presentation 

Gloucester Health and Care NHS Foundation Trust – March 3rd 2023

‘Rachel Williams is one of those presenters that takes you on what I can only describe as an emotional roller coaster type journey that is excellent in terms of increased learning, increased confidence as a health practitioner as well as heartfelt personal introspection all at once. 

Domestic abuse is one of those topics that we feel we have already have a relatively good grasp and knowledge about.  However, by Rachel sharing raw and emotionally intimate details of her abuse gives you a unique insight (and frustrations) of how the system doesn’t work well (and sometimes appallingly) for victims of domestic abuse was an amazing and harrowing experience all rolled into one.

Hearing Rachel speak is a must for all professionals working with families‘  

( Melanie Harrison ) 

 

‘Rachel’s story is essential hearing for all health professionals, it is powerful, tragic and emotional and  impactful in strengthening understanding and professional responsibilities around domestic abuse. It is a privilege to hear Rachel present, her dedication and her activism is an inspiration to us all’  

( Lucy Brazener )

Hull CC – Humber Wide Event April 2023

Yes absolutely, everyone who presented provided incredibly detailed insight into abuse in all forms in a very engaging manner. I feel I’ve gained a lot of knowledge on recognised signs of abuse and how to approach situations of domestic abuse which I can utilise both personally and professionally.

Yes, it has increased my knowledge of economic abuse.  I would l like to have known from Rachel Williams whether this was a feature of her relationship with her abuser.

Was a fantastic opportunity to listen to survivor stories and first hand experiences including how to best identify and support.

yes, very informative and powerful

Yes – found the first video and Rachel Williams session very informative and helpful

Hearing the personal accounts was powerful and communicated the real issues better than statistics – although stats are important.

It has given me a deeper appreciation of the intricacies involved in domestic abuse especially the stage where no violence has occurred, but that coercive behaviour precedes the violence.

Having just completed my degree, some of this topic was covered, but I feel that this training has built on and expanded that knowledge.

Definitely increased my knowledge on the impact of domestic abuse.

Yes – much better informed – hearing & seeing stories of people with lived experience, the dramatic presentation & information around legal routes for refugees has all been worthwhile – thank you

This was a very powerful event with lots of ‘food for thought’ of how I can use the information learned as best practice with the families I work for.

I work in the domestic abuse sector, but still found this learning event very informative. all the presentations were amazing and thought provoking. thank you to all who organised it.

It was good to hear Rachel’s story and how she has survived and the performance by the certain curtain theatre was great and powerful.

Some of the mechanisms discussed were new.  Hearing directly from Rachel Williams and the theatre performance were both very powerful.

Yes, it has especially the information from Rachel about failed strangulation.  

Hearing Rachel William’s story was incredibly valuable. Inspirational.

Session from Rachel Williams was very inspiring and informative. Good to hear from someone who has experienced DV. Lots of good information and resources.

The video kept glitching and was not working correctly. Despite this Rachel handled it really well and was very helpful and her story was very inspiring. That was the best part of the training.

Rachel Williams was amazing, the most informative part of the training.

Rachel Williams story was very powerful , she is such an amazing strong , passionate lady.

The presentation from Rachel was extremely moving and will stay with me forever

I found this a really good training. I particularly found that hearing Rachel’s story and her advice for how to discuss abuse with victims who may not be ready to open up / leave to be helpful.

Rachel Williams is so brave sharing her story to help others.

Speakers today were very informative and brave. They were very powerful in their message. Thank you to all involved.

Rachael is just one brave lady, and the theatre production was excellent too, the way it took you on her story with a ‘twist’ at the end.  

It was a really informative and interesting session if a challenging one. It was a privilege to hear Rachel’s story and about the work she is doing now to help others. Lots of things to take away from the session thanks to everyone involved

Great event, really powerful and I would recommend to all my colleagues.

 

Donna B

Thank you for sharing your story, you’re an inspiration to all woman x

 

Pamela

Thank you, Rachel.

 

Doreen F

I was a victim of abuse in the 80s -90s the police would not get involved at all

 

Pamela S

Where I came from domestic abuse/violence is sorted within the family and was never considered a Police matter until recently.

 

PRESTON, LP (HUMBER TEACHING NHS FOUNDATION TRUST)

You are such an inspiration Rachel thank you for sharing your personal story, which was very shocking, tragic and emotional – you are incredible and so pleased I have seen this thank you x

 

Jackie (CITY HEALTH CARE PARTNERSHIP CIC)

Such a powerful presentation, thank you. What are your thoughts on the 16-18yr age group and DA? From a safeguarding perspective they are still children, but the police and some other services often see 16yr plus as adults??

 

DF

It is good to know police are getting trained and seeing domestic abuse is real problem

 

Lisa

You are an inspiration Rachel thank you

 

Katie R

Please can you share your petitions so we can sign/support

 

 

SW (HUMBER TEACHING NHS FOUNDATION TRUST)

Training for children from a young age around what healthy relationships are & respecting themselves – again thank you so much Rachel for all your work

 

(HUMBER TEACHING NHS FOUNDATION TRUST)

I left 4 years ago and never looked back I’m now able to talk about it and became DV champion for the trust.

 

Annie

It’s very affirming, Rachel, to hear you and others hear  talk about reclaiming your life, autonomy and identity after all the tragedy. As a worker in this field it’s so important to celebrate and acknowledge the possibility of recovery and moving forward

 

Edwina

Thank you

 

Donna B

Amazing Lady! Keep doing what you’re doing

 

Gemma (ERVAS) (Guest)

Thank you so much Rachel 🙂

 

Claire S

Thank you

 

W Nicci JCP HULL WEST

Thank you inspiring lady

 

Nicola

Thank you, Rachel,

 

Sophie

Thank you

 

Rebecca (HUMBER TEACHING NHS FOUNDATION TRUST)

You are truly amazing Rachel, thank you so much x

 

 

 

 Northumbria University Dec 2022

Alison
You are so courageous

Patricia
As always, thanks Rachel for an insightful, heart-breaking account

Andrea
Thank you so much for sharing your story

Sharon
Thank you for sharing, very emotional and powerful story

Louise
100% agree with Rima, the ongoing control is so difficult to live with

David
Firstly, thank you for your presentation!
I am a current PhD student researching DA in both the criminal and family courts. You spoke about the need for an overhaul of the family courts and some of the horrendous comments made by judges in previous cases.
Part of my research is the discussing the potential for implementing specialist integrated domestic abuse courts throughout England and Wales where a survivor’s case would be overseen by the same judge and team throughout the whole process. Do you think this would be beneficial to survivors? And do you think it would make the system easier to understand and navigate?
Thank you

Alison
I mourn the loss of Public Service adverts we had in the past – this would make an excellent one. Perhaps you could contrive to have them resurrected for important messages such as these

Elaine
The ordeal never ends … well done seems so little. What an amazing thing to share, so insightful

Margaret
Very powerful.

J
I’d like to thank you for all the work you are doing; my Mum is a DV survivor, and the perpetrator really had such a horrific impact on our family and the difference I know you’re making to victims and their families by doing this work is just incredible!

Margaret
Domestic violence/abuse was a daily concern working as a Health Visitor in a busy inner city area of Newcastle. It is a timescale that is impacting so much on our young generation. As an academic I feel it is my responsibility to ensure that students are aware of domestic abuse and not being afraid to ask questions safely.

millieb8
Thank you! You’re amazing

Julie
Thank you so much, you’re an exceptional person.

Nikki
You are an inspiration – thank you so very much.

Anna
Thank you so much!

Patricia
Thanks Rachel and to Sharon for organising

Chris
An inspirational story and incredibly powerful. many thanks to Rachel for sharing her story about a subject area I didn’t know much about before. thanks again

Faye
Thank you so much, a really beneficial session

Abbey
Thank you so much!

Rima
Thank you so much, Rachel, for everything.

Susan
Thank you, you are amazing

Elaine
Thank you, Rachel – your book helped me learn and realise what I experienced was coercive control. He isn’t in my life anymore

Kanchana
Thank you so much for sharing, Rachel. You’re such an inspirational. I will email you as I would like to help out.

Louise
Thank you, you’re amazing for turning such a negative into a positive to help others

Alison
Thank you so much

Margaret
Thank you, a powerful presentation, about YOU.

Carmelita
Thank you

Robyn
Thank you for sharing your empowering story

Dear Rachel,
I am the Head of Profession for Public Protection within the Metropolitan Police Service. Thank you very much for presenting at our Domestic Abuse Conference on Thursday 6th October 2022 at New Scotland Yard. The purpose of this letter is to pass on my gratitude and appreciation for the assistance you provided in making
these extremely successful sessions.
Your presentation provided an opportunity for the sharing of best practice, and I particularly thank you for sharing your lived experience of these awful crimes. You helped to highlight how we as police officers can work with partner agencies to help tackle domestic abuse in all of its various forms. Such events deliver direct
operational benefits, as well as being both interesting and informative.
Once again, I would like to take this opportunity to thank you for your time and effort in helping this organisation to grow. It is much appreciated.

NHS – North West Lunch & Learn Session 12th January 2022

Sara (CHESHIRE AND WIRRAL PARTNERSHIP NHS FOUNDATION TRUST)13:01 Without doubt the most powerful training I have attended. Your video would be an excellent ‘think family ‘ training resource. Thank you.

As a third year student midwife, this session has been amazing and insightful for development of my future practise, so thank you so much.

Ruth (CHESHIRE AND WIRRAL PARTNERSHIP NHS FOUNDATION TRUST)13:04 Thank you, Rachel .It has emphasised the importance of asking the question .Very powerful

Paul (SOUTHPORT AND ORMSKIRK HOSPITAL NHS TRUST)13:05 Where do you get your strength, such an icon, thanks so much.

Jenny Thank you for an amazing session, so thought provoking, do you have any resources that we can use to display in our staff room, and could we use your presentation for staff training??

Melanie-Anne (ANSDELL MEDICAL CENTRE) You are such an inspiration – Thank you for sharing your story 🙂

Amanda (R0A) Manchester University NHS Thank you so much for sharing your experience and raising awareness. For reassurance midwives at my trust undertake routine enquiry several times during a pregnancy and I will share my experience of this training session to encourage others to attend in future as it has been so powerful and reinforces the importance of routine enquiry

Rachel (Guest)13:07 Thank you for an informative presentation. If there are any slides a lot info, I would like it sent to me if possible. Thank you

Maria Excellent session, you are a brave inspiring lady

Debbie (THE WALTON CENTRE NHS FOUNDATION TRUST) Thank you. Your strength and resolve is inspirational Rachel

Helen (SUNVALLEY MEDICAL PRACTICE) Thank you ….it has been very insightful

Ffion Thank you for this session, really informative and inspiring

Jennifer Thanks so much, this has been really helpful and informative.

Katie Thank you so much this was so inspiring

Paul (SOUTHPORT AND ORMSKIRK HOSPITAL NHS TRUST) Thank you so much for this insight. God bless and take care

Shonagh Thank you so much

Jenny Thanks very much, excellent session. It is amazing to see the positive that has come from your dreadful experiences.

Michelle Thank you for sharing your inspirational journey. Excellent presentation. Kind regards Michelle.

Emma (WIRRAL COMMUNITY HEALTH AND CARE NHS FOUNDATION TRUST) Thank you so much Rachel!

Udayanthi (SOUTHPORT AND ORMSKIRK HOSPITAL NHS TRUST)13:17 Thank you and congratulations for how you’ve converted a negative experience to such a positive one

Suhal Thank you

Simmy Thank you so much!

Top 100 Feedback – February 2020

As a police officer I have listened to many many accounts of DA and the failings of the authorities. Rachel was so passionate, and this presentation was equally sad to others I have heard. Talking to non-police they got much more from it than I did. Well done Rachel for being so brave and for fighting this awful crime as well as raising awareness.

How do we make the connections to support

Great stuff. Really powerful to listen to people tell their own stories. Please pass on my thanks to them for a really thought provoking session

Really powerful session.

What a privilege -very uncomfortable stuff

I thought this was a really worthwhile input. It really emphasised how the system doesn’t work. I will take back to my organisation as we think we tackle domestic violence well, however Rachel’s tragic story highlighted the missed opportunities by different agencies.

Very powerful

Massively impactful. We must use stories and stats

Wow! A case study that clearly provides the need for systems learning.

Inspirational and current session well pitched and delivered, that stirred personal and professional thinking around responsibilities as a public leader. Outstanding.

Very powerful – emphasis on the voice of the survivor is often missed

The learning for organisations was evident- asked the right questions – professional judgement v process

Humbling and inspirational.

Very brave, humbling and thought provoking.

Very, very powerful. Impressive and impactful. Stressed need to better understand but in a way that sets ‘normal’. To be honest still computing it all.

Amazing privilege to hear Rachel’s story.

Very impactful – distressing and rightly so

(Delegates were made up of professionals from across the board, Home Office employees, Police Officers etc)
NHS England (NW Region)

Fantastic presentation covering a difficult subject.

Thank you Rachel such a powerful presentation and amazing the support you are giving to others

Thankyou Rachel for sharing your story

A very informative session, good to have some statistics and links for information.

Powerful story, thank you for sharing.

Really useful due to how informative this is from such a personal perspective. thank you for this session.

Such a powerful session. What an amazingly brave inspirational lady. Thank You.

I thought the importance of the language placed on the victim opposed to the perpetrator was really enlightening and a change i’ll make sure I do & will highlight this to my colleagues. thank you so much for a very powerful and moving presentation.

This is by far the best training i have ever had on domestic violence. So much more impacting listen to somebody who has experienced this themselves. You are inspirational

Very powerful and very informative session. Amazing person and survivor. Thank you so much for all the knowledge I have learnt today.x

This has been the most valuable training I have had. Thank you so much.

Thank you Rachel sharing you story, you have certainly enhanced my knowledge and awareness, I would like to gain further knowledge going forward.

Excellent training very well delivered. thankyou for sharing your personal experiences. very powerful and informative.

Hello Rachel . Thanks so much for your powerful , thought provoking presentation. The NHS innovation agency North west coast are working on stroke prevention pathways. I’m wondering if its worth linking in with them re what you were saying about the increase risk of strokes ?

What an amazing and informative session! You truly are an inspiration and this has been the best domestic violence training I have received. Thank you so much Rachel for sharing your story!!

I learnt stuff I never knew previously and yes it is important about our use of language – it’s has really made me think about how I document.

Thank you for sharing your story, Rachel. You are so inspirational. I follow your Facebook page and that really empowers me to keep being strong and use my own experience as a positive to help others in my care who are experiencing similar situations.

This has been a powerful training session. How we record information and communicate does need much more consideration.

Thanks Rachel, this session has been powerful and informative. You are inspirational

This was absolutely amazing and really emphasises that the violence is usually the tip of the iceberg, so much damage is done before the abuse becomes violent, and that is often the most damaging

Thank you for sharing, such a brave lady containue what you doing…god bless

Thank you that was powerful and inspirational

This was a really powerful session, thank you for sharing your story in order to help us to help others. The part on language has certainly changed my way of thinking.

Fabulous Presentation Rachel , your an inspiration , an amazing advocate , great learning for me which i can pass on . thank you.

I have to leave now, but thank you Rachel for all that you do. It’s so important to change the language that is used.

This has been thoughtfully delivered and is really informative – a great boost to knowledge and will inform future practice Thankyou

Fantastic to see how wide your support is across many systems – really informative session.

Great presentation Rachel, thank you

Really enjoy this course thank you and will pass this on to all my staff team

So much learning within this presentation from so many angles. Hugely informative to many professional groups.

Thank you so much for this, incredible training that has really opened my eyes to the extent of this situation

Thank you for sharing your story and your passion for making a difference shines through. Lots of things to think about particularly the language used when reporting domestic abuse

Thank you so much for this inspirational presentation..very informative session…what a journey you have been on

Great session, plain speaking and it gets the message across.

Amazing – thank you

So much respect for you. Thank you for everything you are doing!

Thank you truly inspirational, lots to think about

So inspirational and thought provoking. Thank you Rachel

Hello Rachel and a huge thank you for your presentation and the honesty and openness you have displayed. This has been a very powerful session and I have gone away with lots of things to think through

Thank you for this fab session and for your openness and great insight you have given

You are so inspirational, and this has been such amazing training – there is no voice louder than that of a person who shares their own ‘lived experience’.

Thank you, Rachel, it really hit home. I share your passion and respect you for what you now do. great example of how to take a negative and turn i into a positive, well done x

“such an eye opener thank you and bye for now….”

Feedback from Wirral Council

Rachel’s session was extremely powerful and I like her use of materials – video etc – albeit that they were very harrowing. Rachel came across as a wonderful advocate for her area, confident, knowledgeable of the whole subject not just as an expert by experience, she really made me want to do something positive, which can be tricky when we have so many areas to tackle and competing for our attention. It was a great session.

Very powerful

Incredibly fortunate to hear her personal story

Left us all with lots of think about

For us as an RMB we need to/action the so what/what next i.e. we heard her powerful story and then went onto the next session so some time to reflect on what she said and what actions we might take in response would have been helpful.

I found Rachel’s session excellent, really engaging. Though, I wonder about the relevance of it to RMB, perhaps if we’d had more time to discuss afterwards and think about what we might do differently in consideration of it?

Afternoon Rachel.

I just wanted to give this feedback for what it’s worth . One of the teams listening today is my new team at Preston many of whom are young in service and many of whom are young people. It is hard sometimes were officers have not had those particular life experiences to connect with a victim of domestic abuse and as you no doubt know it is difficult when our victim has those walls up to try and break-through. I only joined this team 10 weeks ago having previously been in a role within the NCRS arena looking at crime recording. I myself also felt the impact of your presentation having been non-operational for a couple of years looking at forms and data but not the person at the centre of it.

The officers you have presented to will have hugely benefitted from hearing your experience and will undoubtedly resonate with them when they are next sat there at 3am with a repeat victim who doesn’t want to tell us anything and will make cops think about that extra mile or extra level of detail.

It ties in nicely also with a piece of work I was involved in and is still ongoing today around domestic behaviour crimes including controlling coercive behaviour and stalking with reference to the importance of accurately recording what the victim has been through and mapping out the terrifying behaviours of the offender.

I thought it was brave but really important to shout out about the men/woman statistics as we can’t pretend it isn’t real! Also on the stalking front before I left the crime data integrity team it was refreshing to see some clarity from the home office about harassment. Where a victim of domestic abuse is the victim of harassment then it must now always be recorded as STALKING unless it has authority from the force crime registrar.

The explanation we delivered to front line cops is that if the offender is an ex-partner then they are showing that they are Fixated, Obsessed, the contact is Unwanted and it is Repetitive, (F.O.U.R) and therefore stalking.

I think what you said about empathy is really important too as not only does it help break down the barriers but believe it also in stills come confidence in us and proves the officer is LISTENING. This is something that doesn’t come naturally for all unfortunately.

I will be talking about this input on our briefing tomorrow to see how they all felt.

From me it is a massive thank you and will do the feedback form shortly. Training can be very front loaded and difficult to recall but this was very thought provoking, emotive and impactive.

Many thanks

Sergeant XXXX

Good afternoon Sarg, I have just been in the domestic abuse input with Rachel and being a student who has just come out of the block one training, would it be possible to pop a suggestion over? I have been a victim myself of domestic violence around 4 years ago, and thankful managed to leave. However, I feel Rachel’s input would be great to have in the block 1 training for new recruits – to give an insight for those who have never been around/or seen or even known anyone to suffer from being a victim of domestic abuse. I have spoken to a few of my colleagues who I have just come out of training with, and all agreed it would be somewhat beneficial to have. Not sure if it’s possible but that would be my personal suggestion. Sergeant XXXX
I am a Lancashire Constabulary police officer and I was listening to your talk you gave today. I just wanted to say that it was really impactive. Hearing your story was both upsetting, when you talked about what you had been through. But it was also amazing to hear what amazing work you have done since. We have a lot of training in my role and I would say listening to your story really was one of the best training sessions we have done and I’m sure everyone will take something positive away from it when dealing with any domestic incident. I couldn’t help but become emotional listening to your story. Anyway just thought I would pass on my feedback.

Feedback from some attendees at Public Health Wales – Lunch & Learn

Wednesday 2nd December 2021

TC (Public Health Wales – No. 2 Capital Quarter)

Thanks so very much Rachel, you are so courageous and making such a difference for people. I have to drop off but want to say an enormous thank you.

SW (Public Health Wales – Microbiology)

It’s an example of the patriarchy. I wish men would challenge other men.

KS (NHS Wales Health Collaborative)

Really informative regarding the statistics around the awful figures of women who have suffered this, and it’s good to know there is some support out there, which could be improved but is there any statistics around violence towards men, I appreciate it is rarer, but it does happen. What support is offered to men who are suffering this?

SW (Public Health Wales – Microbiology)

I bet you’re both told this a lot, but I cant not say it…you are both wonderful women, and no doubt other women will be grateful for the work you do. I will try and amplify your voices. Thank you.

RT (Public Health Wales – No2. Capital Quarter)

I’m totally blown away by both of you and your courage and strength.

HJ (Public Health Wales – Microbiology Carmarthen

Thank you both so much for sharing your stories.

FS (Public Health Wales – No. 2 Capital Quarter)

Thank you both so much, you are both astounding. What can people do to help spot the signs in those cases where the typical red flags aren’t present, and the abuse is very well hidden? and what should you do if you suspect someone you know is being abused?

From sexual assault services in Wales,

thank you both – for your bravery and determination in your campaign to highlight the distressing and harrowing effects. I am struggling for words, so I’ll settle for thank you for sharing and thank you for your amazing ongoing work in domestic abuse

RCN Wales conference – ‘Domestic Abuse: Tackling Difficult Conversations’

On behalf of RCN Wales, we would like to express our sincere gratitude to you for taking the time out of your busy schedule to speak at the RCN Wales Domestic Abuse Conference: Tackling Difficult Conversations, on 25 November 2021. We are very fortunate to have had you share your personal experiences and someone of your professional expertise and credentials address the delegates and contribute to the programme. Your presentation was very well-received and the evaluation from participants has been very positive, a couple of the comments we have already received are:

“Thoroughly enjoyed this session. Great speakers and presentations. I definitely learned a lot.”
“Excellent event with inspirational speakers”
It has been a pleasure working with you, and we look forward to working with you in future learning endeavours.

Thank you once again.

Kind regards

Yours sincerely

MICHELLE MOSELE